Parent and Teacher Resources

  • Scroll down this page for great books, websites, and organizations that focus on the issues facing middle school girls.

At Girl Talk, we’re committed to reaching as many middle school girls as possible, and to helping the parents and teachers in their lives with tools that can better equip them to understand and assist these girls with the issues they face.  This commitment was part of the inspiration behind founder Haley Kilpatrick’s book, The Drama Years, which makes girls the experts in highlighting for their adult supporters what’s really going on in middle school, how it affects girls, and how best to help them through what can be a challenging time.  If you’re interested in learning more about the topics covered in Haley’s book, as well as suggestions for where to find more information on issues we didn’t cover, check out these resources, organized by the new book’s chapter topics.  You can also visit The Drama Years for more information on the insights the book provides, straight from the heart of Girl Talk girls.  The Drama Years is available for purchase everywhere books are sold, and available to order here.

Being True to Her: Self-Esteem, Self-Awareness, and Self-Respect

Books
My Feet Aren’t Ugly: A Guide to Loving Yourself from the Inside Out, by Debra Beck (New York: Beaufort Books, 2007).
Chicken Soup for the Teenage School: Teens Talk Middle School, by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Madeline Clapps, and  Valerie Howlett (Cos Cob, CT: Chicken Soup for the Soul, 2008).
Real Girl/Real World: Tools for Finding Your True Self, by Heather M. Gray, Samantha Phillips and Ellen Forney (Berkeley, CA: Seal Press, 1998).
Respect: A Girl's Guide to Getting Respect and Dealing When Your Line Is Crossed, by Courtney Macavinta and Andrea Vander Pluym (Minneapolis, MN: Free Spirit Publishing, 2005).
Girls Inc. Presents: You’re Amazing! A No-Pressure Guide to Being Your Best Self, by Claire Mysko (Avon, MA: Adams Media, 2008).
Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls, by Mary Pipher (New York: Riverhead Books, 1994).
The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence, by Rachel Simmons (New York: Penguin Press, 2009).
The Good Girl Revolution: Young Rebels with Self Esteem and High Standards, by Wendy Shalit (New York: Ballantine, 2008).

Sites and Organizations

Girl Talk: www.mygirltalk.org
Girls on the Run: www.girlsontherun.org
Respect RX: www.respectrx.com
Girls Inc: www.girlsinc.org

I’m So Stressed! Handling Everyday Anxiety

Books
The Stress Reduction Workbook for Teens: Mindfulness Skills to Help You Deal with Stress (Instant Help), by Gina M. Biegel (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2010).
Stressed-Out Girls: Helping Them Thrive in the Age of Pressure, by Roni Cohen-Sandler (New York: Penguin, 2006).
The Anxiety Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Deal with Anxiety and Worry, by Lisa M. Schab (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2008).
The Triple Bind: Saving Our Teenage Girls from Today’s Pressures, by Stephen Hinshaw (New York: Ballantine, 2009).
Dealing with the Stuff That Makes Life Tough: The 10 Things That Stress Girls Out and How to Cope with Them, by Jill Zimmerman Rutledge (New York: McGraw-Hill, 2003).

Who Has What: Name Brands, Materialism, and Competition

Books
Born to Buy: The Commercialized Child and the New Consumer Culture, by Juliet Schor (New York: Scribner, 2005).
Packaging Girlhood: Rescuing Our Daughters from Marketers' Schemes, by Sharon Lamb and Lyn Mikel Brown (New York: St. Martin’s Griffin, 2007).

Sites/Organizations
Volunteer Match: www.volunteermatch.org
Do Something: www.dosomething.org

Her Body, Herself: Body Image, Weight, and the Pressure to Be Pretty

Books
The Body Scoop for Girls: A Straight-Talk Guide to a Healthy, Beautiful You, by Jennifer Ashton(Avery, 2009).
You'd Be So Pretty If . . . : Teaching Our Daughters to Love Their Bodies—Even When We Don't Rock What You’ve Got: Secrets to Loving Your Inner and Outer Beauty, by Katherine Schwarzenegger (Voice, 2010).
Do I Look Fat in This? by Jessica Weiner (New York: Pocket Books, 2007).

Sites/Organizations

Dove’s Campaign for Real Beauty: www.dove.us
Operation Beautiful: www.operationbeautiful.com

BFFS, Frenemies and Mean Girls: What It Means to Be a Friend

Books
How to Win Friends and Influence People for Teen Girls, by Donna Dale Carnegie (New York: Touchstone, 2005).
Totally Wired: What Teens and Tweens Are Really Doing Online, by Anastasia Goldstein (New York: St. Martin’s Griffin, 2007).
Mean Chicks, Cliques, and Dirty Tricks: A Real Girl's Guide to Getting through the Day with Smarts and Style, by Erika V. Shearin Karres (Avon, MA: Adams Media, 2004).
Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls, by Rachel Simmons (Wilmington. MA: Mariner Books, 2003).
Queen Bees and Wannabees: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends and New Realities of Girl World, by Rosalind Wiseman (New York: Three Rivers Press, 2002).

Sites and Organizations

It Gets Better: www.itgetsbetter.org
Kind Campaign: www.kindcampaign.com
The Megan Meier Foundation: www.meganmeierfoundation.org
Rachel’s Challenge: www.rachelschallenge.org
Say It 2 My Face: www.sayit2myface.org
Stop Cyberbullying: www.stopcyberbullying.org

“It’s Not Just Cooties Anymore”: Love and Relationships

Books
A Smart Girl’s Guide to Boys: Surviving Crushes, Staying True to Yourself and Other Stuff, by Nancy Holyoke (Middleton, WI: American Girl Publishing, 2001).
Talking about Boys: Real-Life Advice from Girls Like You, by A Girls World Productions and AGirlsWorld.com  (New York: Three Rivers Press, 2001).

Dealing with You: Relating with Parents and Other Adults

Books
Five Conversations You Must Have with Your Daughter, by Vicki Courtney (Nashville, TN: B&H Books, 2008).
A Smart Girl’s Guide to Understanding her Family: Feelings, Fighting and Figuring It Out (American Girl), by Amy Lynch (Middleton, WI: American Girl Publishing, 2009).

It’s Not Fair! Boundaries and Consequences

Books
Get Out Of My Life, But First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall? by Anthony E. Wolf (New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1991)
The Parent’s Guide to Texting, Facebook and Social Media: Understanding the Benefits and Dangers of Parenting in a Digital World, by Shawn Edgington (Dallas, TX: Brown Books, 2011).

Family Drama, Divorce, Cutting, and Depression

Books
A Smart Girl's Guide to Her Parents' Divorce: How to Land on Your Feet When Your World Turns Upside Down (American Girl), by Nancy Holyoke and Scott Nash (Middleton, WI: American Girl Publishing, 2009).
The Divorce Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Move beyond the Break Up, by Lisa M. Schab (Oakland, CA: Instant Help, 2008).

Sites and Organizations

To Write Love on Her Arms: www.twloha.com

Other Serious Topics

Dating Abuse
Love Is Respect: www.loveisrespect.org
The Safe Space: www.thesafespace.org
One Love Foundation: www.joinonelove.org

Drug and Alcohol Abuse
The Anti-Drug: www.drugfree.com
The Century Council: www.centurycouncil.com
Ask, Listen, Learn: www.asklistenlearn.com
The Cool Spot: www.thecoolspot.gov
Girls and Drinking: www.girlsanddrinking.org

Eating Disorders
What's Eating You: A Workbook for Teens with Anorexia, Bulimia, and Other Eating Disorders, by Tammy Nelson (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2008).
National Eating Disorders Association: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org